Four Angels of a Health Relationship: Part III of the Relationship Trilogy

We continue our metaphor on four make-or-break qualities and conditions in relationships. Like the four horsemen that serve to make poor relationships, factors that contribute to a health one also come in quadruplets. In contrast to our harbingers of destruction, below are the four angels to the throne of a strong relationship. Self-control Self-control is…

Four Horsemen of an Apocalyptic Breakup: Part I of the Relationship Trilogy

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are mythical riders described in the New Testament as harbingers to the end of times. The Horsemen each ride on a colored horse – white, red, black, and pale – and represent dramatic qualities of conquest, war, famine, and death, respectively. The very metaphor can be applied to relationships…

Doing the Right Thing: Standing Up against Sexual Harassment

I did the right thing today: I reported the pharmaceutical PhD for harassment. I found out that he has been sending unsolicited sexual messages to women in the community. I had also been one of the recipients. Admittedly, reporting him made me very uncomfortable if not also apprehensive, because frankly I don’t want to see…

Courage to do right by you and your current partner

*I wrote this for a client last year. I don’t know if I still have the ownership to this piece, but I know I still have the rights to claim the heart behind the work and to relinquish it forever. I never want to be there, ever again, and I know I never will :)*…

My Statement of Courage: Standing Up for Myself

I did something quite radical – for me, that is – today as my declaration of my courage, strength and honesty. I stood up for myself, and confessed that I know of the wrongs done to me in secret. That was one of the most difficult things I have ever done, but I know within…